Tom Brand 19/08/2024 Tom Brand 19/08/2024

What Is Hierarchical Polyamory (And Is It Toxic)?

While Hierarchical Polyamory can be used as a tool of control, I don't believe it is inherently toxic. It is possible to create healthy, ethical, hierarchical polyamorous relationships. But that can only work if people understand what they are getting into.

So, let's take a moment to explore the concept of Hierarchical Polyamory and whether or not it's always unethical.

Tom Brand 24/10/2023 Tom Brand 24/10/2023

What is “Polybombing”?

There is a difference between "polybombing" and "dropping the poly bomb", and it's important to know which is which.

Tom Brand 25/09/2023 Tom Brand 25/09/2023

What is a One Penis Policy, And Why is it Bad?

Believe it or not, there is a difference between a One Penis Policy and a relationship dynamic with only one penis.

Tom Brand 28/08/2023 Tom Brand 28/08/2023

Polyamory Does Not Equal Consent

If you have ever had a partner use an argument along the lines of "Well, you agreed to an open relationship, so what I did was fine," then they are not thinking about you as a person but as a tool to fulfil their needs and fantasies.

They are not looking at you as a human being but as an object to be manipulated and used.

Thomas H. Brand 05/07/2022 Thomas H. Brand 05/07/2022

Red Flags in Polyamory: Refusing Labels

While it's fine that someone may want to avoid using certain labels in polyamory, refusing to use any at all is a Polyamory Red Flag.

Thomas H. Brand 13/06/2022 Thomas H. Brand 13/06/2022

Red Flags in Polyamory: Pushy/Pressurised Polyamory

There can be a fine line between encouraging someone to try something new and pressuring them into something they don't want to do. This is why you need to be aware of the Polyamory Red Flag of Pushy or Pressurised Polyamory.

Thomas H. Brand 06/06/2022 Thomas H. Brand 06/06/2022

Red Flags in Polyamory: Pretend/Uncertain Polyamory

Sometimes, when you're certain about something, it can be difficult to see that other people don't feel the same way.

Thomas H. Brand 02/06/2022 Thomas H. Brand 02/06/2022

Red Flags in Polyamory: One-Sided Polyamory

It doesn't matter why or how polyamory can become one-sided. All that matters is the Red Flag things are becoming toxic.

Thomas H. Brand 29/05/2022 Thomas H. Brand 29/05/2022

Red Flags in Polyamory: Aggressive Fairness

While fairness between relationships seems like a no-brainer, it's very easy for this line of thinking to become toxic if you go about it the wrong way.