Review: “The Ethical Slut (3rd Ed.)” by Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton
When a piece of media is so iconic, when it is so prolific on bookshelves across the polyamorous community, it creates an incredibly high standard that all but challenges me to find flaws. Could The Ethical Slut really be as good as everyone says?
Yes. Yes, it could. I just don’t think it’s actually about polyamory.
What’s The Best Way To Get Into Polyamory?
What sort of relationship is the best if you want your journey into polyamory is start off on the right foot?
What is a Polycule?
When we begin our journey into polyamory, there is an awful lot to learn. And that includes a whole new vocabulary. And one of the words I had not heard before beginning this journey was "polycule".
So, let's take a moment to talk about polycules, what they are, and what it means to be part of one.
What Is Hierarchical Polyamory (And Is It Toxic)?
While Hierarchical Polyamory can be used as a tool of control, I don't believe it is inherently toxic. It is possible to create healthy, ethical, hierarchical polyamorous relationships. But that can only work if people understand what they are getting into.
So, let's take a moment to explore the concept of Hierarchical Polyamory and whether or not it's always unethical.
Green Flags in Polyamory: Active Communication
We are taught how to talk but not how to actively communicate, and without active communication, polyamory is infinitely harder.
The Dangers of Fetishising Sexuality in Polyamory
A reminder to straight men (and others) that your partner’s sexuality isn’t about your pleasure.
Why Do We All Hate Unicorn Hunters?
What are Unicorn Hunters, why do they have such a bad reputation, and why might they not deserve it?
What is Couple Privilege?
Opening up our relationships is not easy, and it’s not just newly opened couples who are at risk of bringing monogamous thinking into their dynamics.
Review: “Is Monogamy Dead?” by Rosie Wilby
I've always argued that sometimes you can only learn more about certain things, such as relationships, when you look at them from a new angle, and this is exactly what Wilby gives us; an open and non-judgemental exploration of non-monogamy from a monogamous viewpoint.
Green Flags in Polyamory: Actively Learning About Relationships
Society doesn’t teach us how to build healthy relationships, so look out for people who seek to learn by themselves.
Review: “polywise: A Deeper Dive in Navigating Open Relationships” By Jessica Fern with David Cooley
Between this book and her previous book, polysecure, I have become a big fan of Jessica Fern's work. And of the two, in my opinion, polywise is the superior book, offering easy-to-digest breakdowns of some of the root causes of the problems many of us suffer through when opening up our relationships and the advice and frameworks needed to navigate them.
The Question Needed To Begin A Healthy Polyamorous Relationship
How to express and understand what you are looking for at the start of a new polyamorous relationship.
What Do I Do if My Partner Asks for an Open Relationship?
Wanting to explore polyamory is not a sign your partner is unhappy with you, but it could be beneficial (even if you don’t try it)
What do you do When Your Partner Goes Through a Breakup?
Polyamorous breakups are difficult. Things are going to change, but you have to remember this is not about you.
Yes, You Can Feel Jealousy and Compersion at the Same Time
You don't need to wait until you've defeated jealousy before you can start enjoying ethical non-monogamy.
Let’s Talk About Platonic Romance
I’ve long been a proponent of platonic romance. The only reason people find it strange is because of a lack of understanding and education about relationships and the puritanical idea that romance and sex must be reserved for a single person.
So, let’s talk about platonic romance.
What is “Polybombing”?
There is a difference between "polybombing" and "dropping the poly bomb", and it's important to know which is which.
What is a One Penis Policy, And Why is it Bad?
Believe it or not, there is a difference between a One Penis Policy and a relationship dynamic with only one penis.
Polyamory Does Not Equal Consent
If you have ever had a partner use an argument along the lines of "Well, you agreed to an open relationship, so what I did was fine," then they are not thinking about you as a person but as a tool to fulfil their needs and fantasies.
They are not looking at you as a human being but as an object to be manipulated and used.