Yes, You Could Be Polyamorous (Even If You Don’t Want To Be)
Every one of us is capable of exploring polyamory, and thinking you “couldn’t” is a very dangerous sign for your other relationships.
Is Compersion the Opposite of Jealousy?
Exploring polyamory doesn’t involve ridding ourselves of jealousy (because that’s not only impossible but also unnecessary)
Ethical, Consensual, or Just Plain Old Non-Monogamy?
Do we really need to use qualifiers when talking about non-monogamy, and if so, why?
Healthy Reasons to Explore Polyamory: Maintaining Personal Autonomy
Maintaining autonomy and prioritising yourself in your relationships benefits not only you, but also your partners.
The Different Types of Polyamory
It’s vital to know the different types of polyamory because the reason you might believe polyamory doesn’t work might be because you simply don’t know there is more than one option available.
Review: “The Ethical Slut (3rd Ed.)” by Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton
When a piece of media is so iconic, when it is so prolific on bookshelves across the polyamorous community, it creates an incredibly high standard that all but challenges me to find flaws. Could The Ethical Slut really be as good as everyone says?
Yes. Yes, it could. I just don’t think it’s actually about polyamory.
What’s The Best Way To Get Into Polyamory?
What sort of relationship is the best if you want your journey into polyamory is start off on the right foot?
What is a Polycule?
When we begin our journey into polyamory, there is an awful lot to learn. And that includes a whole new vocabulary. And one of the words I had not heard before beginning this journey was "polycule".
So, let's take a moment to talk about polycules, what they are, and what it means to be part of one.
What Is Hierarchical Polyamory (And Is It Toxic)?
While Hierarchical Polyamory can be used as a tool of control, I don't believe it is inherently toxic. It is possible to create healthy, ethical, hierarchical polyamorous relationships. But that can only work if people understand what they are getting into.
So, let's take a moment to explore the concept of Hierarchical Polyamory and whether or not it's always unethical.
Review: “Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hook-Ups, Love, Porn, Consent and Navigating the New Masculinity” by Peggy Orenstein
In “Boys & Sex”, Peggy Orenstein presents an honest, raw, and oftentimes heartbreaking exploration of how modern sex and relationship culture affects boys and young men. If you are a man looking to build better relationships, then this book is the step you need to take to better understand yourself.
You Don’t Have Fulfil All Your Partner’s Needs (And That’s Okay)
Understanding and accepting you can’t provide everything your partner needs is not only liberating, but it might just save your relationship.
Green Flags in Polyamory: Active Communication
We are taught how to talk but not how to actively communicate, and without active communication, polyamory is infinitely harder.
The Dangers of Fetishising Sexuality in Polyamory
A reminder to straight men (and others) that your partner’s sexuality isn’t about your pleasure.
Why Do We All Hate Unicorn Hunters?
What are Unicorn Hunters, why do they have such a bad reputation, and why might they not deserve it?
What is Couple Privilege?
Opening up our relationships is not easy, and it’s not just newly opened couples who are at risk of bringing monogamous thinking into their dynamics.
Review: “Is Monogamy Dead?” by Rosie Wilby
I've always argued that sometimes you can only learn more about certain things, such as relationships, when you look at them from a new angle, and this is exactly what Wilby gives us; an open and non-judgemental exploration of non-monogamy from a monogamous viewpoint.
Green Flags in Polyamory: Actively Learning About Relationships
Society doesn’t teach us how to build healthy relationships, so look out for people who seek to learn by themselves.
Does Being Polyamorous Mean You Are Queer?
When you're new to polyamory, it's important to learn the difference between queer practice and the queer community
What is Compersion?
If there is one word you will find yourself seeing a lot when you start your journey into polyamory, it will be the word "compersion". But what exactly is compersion, and why is it such a big part of people's discussions about ethical non-monogamy? Let’s take a closer look at it, its relationship with jealousy, and how it might be the key to healthier relationships.
Review: “polywise: A Deeper Dive in Navigating Open Relationships” By Jessica Fern with David Cooley
Between this book and her previous book, polysecure, I have become a big fan of Jessica Fern's work. And of the two, in my opinion, polywise is the superior book, offering easy-to-digest breakdowns of some of the root causes of the problems many of us suffer through when opening up our relationships and the advice and frameworks needed to navigate them.