Review: “The Ethical Slut (3rd Ed.)” by Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton
When a piece of media is so iconic, when it is so prolific on bookshelves across the polyamorous community, it creates an incredibly high standard that all but challenges me to find flaws. Could The Ethical Slut really be as good as everyone says?
Yes. Yes, it could. I just don’t think it’s actually about polyamory.
What’s The Best Way To Get Into Polyamory?
What sort of relationship is the best if you want your journey into polyamory is start off on the right foot?
What is a Polycule?
When we begin our journey into polyamory, there is an awful lot to learn. And that includes a whole new vocabulary. And one of the words I had not heard before beginning this journey was "polycule".
So, let's take a moment to talk about polycules, what they are, and what it means to be part of one.
Review: “Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hook-Ups, Love, Porn, Consent and Navigating the New Masculinity” by Peggy Orenstein
In “Boys & Sex”, Peggy Orenstein presents an honest, raw, and oftentimes heartbreaking exploration of how modern sex and relationship culture affects boys and young men. If you are a man looking to build better relationships, then this book is the step you need to take to better understand yourself.
You Don’t Have Fulfil All Your Partner’s Needs (And That’s Okay)
Understanding and accepting you can’t provide everything your partner needs is not only liberating, but it might just save your relationship.
Green Flags in Polyamory: Active Communication
We are taught how to talk but not how to actively communicate, and without active communication, polyamory is infinitely harder.
The Dangers of Fetishising Sexuality in Polyamory
A reminder to straight men (and others) that your partner’s sexuality isn’t about your pleasure.
Why Do We All Hate Unicorn Hunters?
What are Unicorn Hunters, why do they have such a bad reputation, and why might they not deserve it?
What is Couple Privilege?
Opening up our relationships is not easy, and it’s not just newly opened couples who are at risk of bringing monogamous thinking into their dynamics.
Review: “Is Monogamy Dead?” by Rosie Wilby
I've always argued that sometimes you can only learn more about certain things, such as relationships, when you look at them from a new angle, and this is exactly what Wilby gives us; an open and non-judgemental exploration of non-monogamy from a monogamous viewpoint.
What is Compersion?
If there is one word you will find yourself seeing a lot when you start your journey into polyamory, it will be the word "compersion". But what exactly is compersion, and why is it such a big part of people's discussions about ethical non-monogamy? Let’s take a closer look at it, its relationship with jealousy, and how it might be the key to healthier relationships.
Review: “polywise: A Deeper Dive in Navigating Open Relationships” By Jessica Fern with David Cooley
Between this book and her previous book, polysecure, I have become a big fan of Jessica Fern's work. And of the two, in my opinion, polywise is the superior book, offering easy-to-digest breakdowns of some of the root causes of the problems many of us suffer through when opening up our relationships and the advice and frameworks needed to navigate them.
What Do I Do if My Partner Asks for an Open Relationship?
Wanting to explore polyamory is not a sign your partner is unhappy with you, but it could be beneficial (even if you don’t try it)
What do you do When Your Partner Goes Through a Breakup?
Polyamorous breakups are difficult. Things are going to change, but you have to remember this is not about you.
How to Handle Breakups in Polyamory
Being polyamorous doesn’t mean breakups don’t hurt (or that polyamory doesn’t work).
Let’s Talk About Platonic Romance
I’ve long been a proponent of platonic romance. The only reason people find it strange is because of a lack of understanding and education about relationships and the puritanical idea that romance and sex must be reserved for a single person.
So, let’s talk about platonic romance.
What is “Polybombing”?
There is a difference between "polybombing" and "dropping the poly bomb", and it's important to know which is which.
Polyamory Does Not Equal Consent
If you have ever had a partner use an argument along the lines of "Well, you agreed to an open relationship, so what I did was fine," then they are not thinking about you as a person but as a tool to fulfil their needs and fantasies.
They are not looking at you as a human being but as an object to be manipulated and used.
How to Deal With Jealousy in Polyamory
What’s the trick to dealing with jealousy in polyamory? How do we go about combatting that nasty feeling that holds us back from experiencing the joys of compersion?